Why is my baby crying?

You just got home from the hospital and baby is crying. What is going on??

Here are a few tried and true tips to make you into a better detective so you can get to the bottom of the issue quickly and efficiently.

1.STOP, then take three deep breaths so that you calm down and come in to the present moment and can calmly find out the problem and solve it.

2.Check baby’s diaper.

3. Look for hunger and sleepiness cues, is baby rooting?(hunger) or rubbing her eyes?(sleepy or overtired).

4.If it is hot where you are and baby feels hot  remove a layer of clothing. In the first few weeks take baby’s temperature under the arm or in the rectum to make sure baby does not have a fever (temperature of 100.4 in the first 3 months of life).

5.If it is cold and you think baby may be cold a nice warm bath will help you both to feel better.

6.If baby tends to be gassy try to burp him/her, a stuck bubble can hurt, plus the things you do as you burp baby are very calming also.

7.If baby is still crying and you can’t find a cause undress baby to make sure that baby’s clothing is not tight or bothering baby. Also check baby’s toes and fingers for hairs wrapped around them.

Listen to the cry closely so that you can learn what it sounds like.  Babies tend to sound different when they cry when they are hungry, poopy, sleepy or in pain. As a general rule, high pitched shrieks that go on for a while are more worrisome than low pitched crying that only lasts a few moments.

As you get to know your baby you will also begin to recognize the different cry she has for different needs.  Sometimes though, baby may just cry and you can’t figure out why, this is when the above list will come in handy.

How to calm a crying baby when you don’t know what to do:

If you just can’t find the reason baby is crying here is what I recommend:

1.Stop and take three deep breaths to calm and focus yourself.

2.Do NOT decide you are a bad mother. That will just make you feel bad and make baby feel worse!

3.Focus all your attention on being a calm presence for baby and continue to comfort baby as best you can.

4.Get in to the quietest environment you can. If you are in public go to the bathroom or in to your car where you can control the level of stimulation your baby gets.

If you are at home, dim the lights, put on some calm soothing music of you have some

5.Give baby soft gentle touches. Caress baby’s head and touch baby’s body gently.

6.Move with the baby:

Rock baby back and forth gently with controlled movements if you are sitting.

Sway gently back and forth as you walk with baby in your arms.

Walk around with baby in a sling as you make comforting noises.

7.Swaddle baby in a receiving blanket to make her feel more secure and then carry her around or sway with her back and forth.

8.Make comforting noises: Say Shshshsh over and over again or, sing a song (even if you think you can’t sing); the vibrations in your chest will help and the repetition of the sound or song will help baby focus on something else besides crying

9.Give baby something to suck on. Sucking is very comforting and soothing for babies.

10.Sometimes if all else has failed you can try putting on the vacuum cleaner or a fan which makes a loud noise which may distract baby and help her to calm down.

 

Sometimes though, baby may just cry and you can’t figure out why, this is when the above list will come in handy.

How to calm a crying baby when you don’t know what to do:

If you just can’t find the reason baby is crying here is what I recommend:

1.Stop and take three deep breaths to calm and focus yourself.

2.Do NOT decide you are a bad mother. That will just make you feel bad and make baby feel worse!

3.Focus all your attention on being a calm presence for baby and continue to comfort baby as best you can.

4.Get in to the quietest environment you can. If you are in public go to the bathroom or in to your car where you can control the level of stimulation your baby gets.

If you are at home, dim the lights, put on some calm soothing music of you have some.

  1. Give baby soft gentle touches. Caress baby’s head and touch baby’s body gently.

6.Move with the baby:

Rock baby back and forth gently with controlled movements if you are sitting.

Sway gently back and forth as you walk with baby in your arms.

Walk around with baby in a sling as you make comforting noises.

7.Swaddle baby in a receiving blanket to make her feel more secure and then carry her around or sway with her back and forth.

  1. Make comforting noises: Say Shshshsh over and over again or, sing a song (even if you think you can’t sing); the vibrations in your chest will help and the repetition of the sound or song will help baby focus on something else besides crying.
  2. Give baby something to suck on. Sucking is very comforting and soothing for babies.
  3. Sometimes if all else has failed you can try putting on the vacuum cleaner or a fan which makes a loud noise which may distract baby and help her to calm down.