I am sure you have noticed that when you are stressed and really need baby to be calm, baby decides instead to cry, be fussy and very demanding? Rest assured, this happens to ALL of us and here is why:
Baby feels what you feel also, so, when you feel stressed and overwhelmed that is how baby feels also. To prove this, some was done, that actually shows that baby’s heart rhythm synchronizes to mothers when mom smiles at baby (Dads unfortunately were not included in the study). This is the first study that has ever been done to prove what parents have always known, that there is a strong invisible bond between them and their children.
Baby looks to you to teach her how to manage her feelings and emotions.
This is why it is so very important that you learn how to manage your own feelings and reactions if you want to be the very best leader to your child.
Following is some helpful information as well as some tips and tools to assist you with your crying baby:
Crying is your baby’s way of telling you that she needs something or is uncomfortable in any way.
When your baby cries it does NOT mean that you are a bad mother or that you have something wrong, it is just her way of asking for your help. Babies cry because:
They are hungry.
They are sleepy.
They have a dirty diaper.
They are lonely or want your attention
Baby is uncomfortable. Babies get uncomfortable for many reasons: a dirty diaper, baby is too hot or too cold, baby is in pain
Before babies cry they have usually tried a few early more subtle signs to get your attention, if you miss these she will start to cry at some point. So, being aware and present in the moment is a skill that comes in very handy on your parenting journey.